“She opens her mouth with wisdom and loving instruction is on her tongue” (Proverbas 31:26, HCSB).
This is the kind of mother I want to me. I want to "lovingly instruct" my children, not have them live in fear of my raised voice. My daughter can be so frustrating sometimes. She'll be two next month, and definitely knows how to push her momma's buttons already! She's the happiest little creature on earth, until she doesn't get her way. Then she hollars. She screams. And, at times, she deliberatly disobeys. My first instinct is to get impatient with her. I really just want her to listen. Sometimes it is for her safety, if she's getting too close to the kitchen stove, wandering into the street, or trying to stand up in the grocery cart. Other times, it's more for appearance. I really don't want that screaming kiddo to be mine at the grocery store!
I want my daughter to grow up healthy and strong. I want her to learn the difference between wrong and right, and also her great need for a personal Savior.
But in order to do this, I definitely need wisdom. Wisdom and patience to be the kind of mother God wants me to be. The Proverbs 31 wife is such an excelelnt example to live up to. The verse at the top of this post tells us that this wife speaks wisely. She instructs her household, not with anger, but with words straight from God. I definitely have along way to go in this area, but I am trying to change a few things in my life.
Here are a few things that are helping me right now:
- Getting up early, either 5 minutes or an hour.
- Spending time in prayer and Bible reading. This really helps me start my day on the right foot. Gives me time to organize my thoughts, and talk to Jesus.
- Fellowship with believers. These people encourage and uplift me.
- Having a prayer parterner. Someone else I can intentionally pray for, and they for me.
- Alone time. Really, an amazing concept. Sometimes it helps to simply get out of the house for a bit without my kiddo in tow. This was just as important while the hubby was deployed. Then, I had to rely on some good firends, now I can simply leave Little E with the hubby, ha! This time away truly rejuvinates me, even if it's just an hour or two. It honestly helps me "miss" my little girl, and get rid of any frazzled edges from the day!
How do you consciously change the way you react to sittuations? Are there any verses you turn to? And quotes you admire?